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  • Reply to blog post: Birth Order and Feeling Safe by birthorder
    Comment written 1 hour ago

    Second Born personality is created by interaction with the First Born.  There does not have to be a Third Born. 

    Birth Order pesonality is created so early in childhood that disability of the First Born does not take away from the Birth Order of the Second Born.  The Second Born tends to be more responsible that the First Born even when the First Born is "normal."  Second Borns are self-disciplined to be responsible while First Borns tend to be dreamers who may not get as much done. 

  • Reply to blog post: The Wonders of Facebook. by xNightmarex
    Comment written 1 week ago

    Hi Queenie, there are clues that suggest you are Second Born in personality, a mellow type because you have an older brother - you would have been more rigid if you had an older sister.  Your sensitivity to the feelings of your father and younger brother suggests Second Born. Also, your ability to set aside your feelings for the sake of someone else.  You can check out Second Born on my website www.birthorderplus.com.  Cliff

  • Reply to blog post: Commitment Phobia in Birth Order by birthorder
    Comment written 2 weeks ago

    Hello Diane,

    Twins organize themselves into consecutive Birth Orders.  So, you well could be Second Born in personality. But, because of your CP and the feeling of really being confused you might consider whether you might be Fourth Born in personality - it's possible.  It might make more sense of your personality.

  • Reply to blog post: Understanding Anger Through Birth Order by birthorder
    Comment written 1 months ago

    Hello to you.  I don't recall which post has the quote.  However, the idea is that the First Born lives in a world where love is unavailable.  The First Born feels love is hard to get - and if love is easy to get in a relationship there must be something wrong.  So the First Born finds a relationship where love is hard to get because that makes sense in his or her  perception of the world.

  • Reply to blog post: A Sense of Security by Birth Order by birthorder
    Comment written 1 months ago

    That's a good question.  The search for security needs to be balanced with risk-taking.  You can have security while taking the risks you need take by giving yourself a plan B.  As long as you know what you will do if you lose you can be secure.  Risk-taking allows you to transcend the boundaries of your Birth Order.   

  • Reply to blog post: How Decisions Are Made By Birth Order by birthorder
    Comment written 1 months ago

    Good for you, recognizing the possibilities with your ex.  Here are some more things to consider.  As a First Born you tend to be dissatisfied with what you have so you keep looking for something better.   As a First Born you aren't sure what you think so you keep listening to your parents.  As a cautious type Third born your ex would probably not be exciting - which means she is safe.  Excitement about a person is a red flag because the active ingredient in excitement is fear - subconsicously you know there is something to be afraid of in this person.   You'll find out later, to your regret, what your excitement (fear) was telling you. 

    You need excitement in your life for the stimulation.  Excitement should come from the challenges you take on in life, not from your life partner.  I hope this is helpful. The best to you.

    Cliff

     

  • Reply to blog post: Birth Order Behind Marriage by birthorder
    Comment written 1 months ago

    Being sixth of six should make you Second Born in personality.  If your next older sibling is a brother that would make you a mellow type Second with the ability to deal well with emotions. 

  • Reply to blog post: Birth Order Thinking by birthorder
    Comment written 2 months ago

    You're doing some great Birth Order analysis! Smile

    As an Only, you should have Third Born from your mother and Second Born from your father.  Since Third Born comes from your mother it influences how you view the world - especially reacting to chaos in your world but going along just as you did with your mother.  Your secondary Second Born would make you critical of yourself because you internalize what you get from your father. 

  • Reply to a comment on: A Sense of Security by Birth Order by birthorder
    Comment written 2 months ago

    Psychological languages are more challenging than English!  But, they can be learned. Smile

  • Reply to a comment on: Insights into Marriage from Birth Order by birthorder
    Comment written 2 months ago

    Nope, the old math doesn't work.  You might be third in the family but second in personality.  Also, your father probably has an only child personality rather than a first born.  Smile

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