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  • Reply to a comment on: A Sense of Security by Birth Order by birthorder
    Comment written 5 months ago

    Psychological languages are more challenging than English!  But, they can be learned. Smile

  • Reply to a comment on: Insights into Marriage from Birth Order by birthorder
    Comment written 5 months ago

    Nope, the old math doesn't work.  You might be third in the family but second in personality.  Also, your father probably has an only child personality rather than a first born.  Smile

  • Reply to blog post: A Sense of Security by Birth Order by birthorder
    Comment written 5 months ago

    Thanks.  Some truth in it increases the possibilities of understanding human behavior better.  I hope what I have written will lead to further discoveries.   

  • Reply to a comment on: Insights into Marriage from Birth Order by birthorder
    Comment written 5 months ago

    I like your humor - suggests Second Born personality.  You've put your finger on a common problem - how to find a partner.  Wish I could write a book on that one!  Good luck.  Thanks for the compliment.

  • Reply to a comment on: Commitment Phobia in Birth Order by birthorder
    Comment written 5 months ago

    Thanks for the feedback.  I'm finding many Second/Fourth marriages ending in divorce after two or three decades especially when the wife is the Second Born.  The Second suffers emotionally in the relationship while the Fourth thinks everything is okay.

    Sometimes these marriages turn out okay if the couple are able to get good therapy in the early years. 

    Thanks for sharing your story.  I wish you better years ahead.

    Cliff 

  • Reply to blog post: Birth Order Thinking by birthorder
    Comment written 5 months ago

    Hello Jesse,

    Thanks for the feedback!  The Second Born finds emotions to be a source of pain when childhood memories kick in.  This probably comes from losing attention to the first born sibling who takes advantage of the situation.  To deal with the pain the Second Born chooses to hide his or her feelings.  This means that the Second Born must respond to others' emotions rationally so that he or she appears to ignore others's feelings.

    The Fourth Born cannot have close friends if the Fourth Born is resisting others thinking for him or her.  This Fourth Born has to disagree, reject, ridicule or ignore others' ideas.  That does not make for good friendship.

    The most common reason for any Birth Order to not have close friends is underlying anger.  This anger, though hidden, comes out in non-verbal communication such as tone of voice, facial expressions, look in the eyes, posture, even flushing of the skin.  Others have learned to move away from anger making friendships difficult for the angry person.  It pays to get help with past issues to get rid of hidden anger.

    Appreciate your thoughtful questions,

    Cliff 

  • Reply to blog post: Intelligence and Birth Order by birthorder
    Comment written 5 months ago

    Hello Jesse, you're doing some good thinking on birth order.  Let's see if I can add some more order to your thinking.

    There's a good chance that the test shows your secondary birth order characteristics rather than your primary birth order.  This would come about if you took the test at school where your secondary characteristics would be more prominent.  If you took the test at home you would probably find the results to be different.

    I would take it that you are actually a First Born from your writing.  If the next one younger that you has Second Born characteristics (seen at home) this would confirm that you are First Born.  The fourth and second born characteristics would come from your parents. 

    Second Borns are focused in their thinking while Fourth Borns are analytical.  They are similar in that both of them tend to reject others' thinking, Second Borns because it does not fit with what they already know or think they know and Fourth Borns because they don't want others thinking for them.  Second and Fourth secondary Birth Orders would mean you pay attention to details (Second Born) and you figure things out by analyzing (Fourth Born).

    I hope this is helpful.  We can keep going if you would like to learn more.

    Cliff  

  • Reply to a comment on: A Sense of Security by Birth Order by birthorder
    Comment written 5 months ago

    Thanks!

  • Reply to a comment on: A Super Intelligent Third Born by birthorder
    Comment written 7 months ago
    Thanks for sharing. Your description certainly fits.
  • Reply to a comment on: Onlies Are Not Lonelies by birthorder
    Comment written 9 months ago
    Thanks for the correction. That's how I keep learning. [THUMBUP]

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