Many professionals reject the idea that Birth Order has any affect on personality. Counselors tend to see Birth Order as offering the client a cop-out, especially if the counselor normally functions in an adversarial relationship with clients. The counselor does not want the client to be empowered by understanding Birth Order. Academic researchers cannot identify Birth Order personality satisfactorily because they study it outside the home in the laboratory setting, the school or the work place. People do not display their Birth Order to any great extent outside of their homes. In the mall you cannot observe people living out their Birth Order.
Birth Order is developed in the intensely emotional home environment. When the child left home for the playground, school or daycare where the emotional environment was much less intense Birth Order personality was set aside. Outside the home the child learned to socialize while setting aside their Birth Order personalities. When they went home the Birth Order personality took control again. Home brings out the Birth Order in adults as well. Away from home they shift to a public personality. Researchers fail when they try to discover the home personality of Birth Order by studying the public personality.
The average person discovers Birth Order more readily than professionals because he or she compares Birth Order to experiences in the family. This observation enables laypersons to see what research-oriented professionals cannot see. I learned about Birth Order from my clients because they told me about domestic experiences.
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For instance, the media recently reported on a study about anger. The conclusions: it is a good thing to express anger, because afterwards the body's physical indicators showed a reduction in stress.
Correct me if I'm wrong, Birth Order, but it seems to me that this isn't true of everyone. For instance, consider the abusive personality: after father would beat me, he would calm down and seem to feel better--yet expressing his anger in this way was wrong no matter if it reduced his stress levels. For me, expressing anger would increase my stress levels afterwards because I'd feel bad for having done it.
Researchers try to make blanket conclusions that apply to everyone without considering differing personalities. No wonder we don't learn much from formal research studies. And no wonder the conclusions seem to be contradictory.
One day someone will apply Cliff Isaacson's personalities when doing research, and then the entire field will move out of the dark ages.
Yes, you are doomed! Your negative strategies are turning your world into crap! But there is hope. That can be changed.
You have a good heart. You care about victims. You do not want to see someone feeling bad, ashamed or defeated. Trying to protect people from those feelings by stopping those who would make them feel bad, ashamed or defeated results in negative strategies. An alternative is to strengthen victims so they can live in the real world rather than protect them.
The changes in blogster reflect the protective strategy. The profanity has been limited to keep it from hurting others. The competitiveness has been eliminated so there are no losers. Conflict has been banned so it does not produce victims. Blogster has become safe for sensitive people.
Blogster has also become bland. It has lost its emotion, drama and competitiveness. It is like a ballgame where the fans have been quieted down, the cheerleaders have been let go and the scoreboard has been removed. Imagine how many people would attend such a game!
On the former Blogster the people doing the shouting (profanity) were the fans, the Blog Frogs were the cheerleaders and the top 100 most popular blogs were the scoreboard. Without these Blogster is doomed. It is just a matter of time before it stops breathing.
Blogster can be revived. Allow the shouting, restore the scoreboard and bring back the cheerleaders. A game must have spirit.
Let people like me care for the victims. We’ll make them stronger so you don’t have to stop the game for them.
You may feel like you’re doomed. You’re okay. You just need to forget the memories that make you hide your feelings so emotion can be part of your world. That’s what makes it (and you) live.
This is an extreme response. Your secondary third born nature is coming out here -- you've attacked the reader 'Blog'.
Your concern over YOUR experience with his product and YOU being unsatisfied with it smacks also of a First Born (selfish) perspective.
It was embarrassing for me to read this response of yours.
Cordially,
Paul C. Martens
p.s. your analogy is tinged with your perspective (most analogies end up breaking down btw): only a first born would use a competitive environment within their analogy. :(